|A Better Life||
Animals are the ultimate beings for living in the moment. Take a cat for example. He can be upset about something one second and purring the next. It's amazing to witness this. For people it can appear to a bit more complicated. We seem to have some difficulty living in the moment. We certainly experience moments of pure joy all the time. But do we always stop and appreciate them-Purr about them if you will. Or are we worried abour the past or the future too much to enjoy these precious moments? Just yesterday I went for 20 minute walk with my daughter. We talked the entire time and for me it was completely satisfying-it was by far the best 20 minutes of my day. I truly appreciated the time with her both during and after. What about you? Are you someone who appreciates, truly treasures the best moments of each and every day? Are you able to live in the moment, to purr like a cat? Something to think about going forward is how easy it is to stop and say and/or feel it. Instead of regret, fear or dread, to live life intentionally and to "BE" in that terrific experience as it happens. Purr like a cat.
There are patterns all around you. In fact, everywhere you look there’s a pattern of some sort. If you stop and think about it, the seasons are a pattern. Even each day itself is in a pattern: the sun rises in the east and sets in the west and follows a certain path around the earth. Similarly, your life is a series of patterns. You probably get up at a certain time of day and go to bed at a certain time at night. You eat your meals at certain times, exercise at other times as well as socialize. Most of what you do is probably good and helpful for you but you may have certain patterns that could use changing. In the past you might have thought of this as something that was difficult to alter. However, if you utilize the correct tool then it is quite easy. It is just like driving in a nail with a hammer, instead of a screwdriver. Hypnosis, Reiki and EFT are tools that make changing the patterns you want to change, very, very easy.
Its the end of the year and like most people, you may have some New Year's resolutions. And like many people you may still be trying to resolve some of your issues using the same method of conscious thinking as you have in the past. This might work but chances are more likely that it will not. If you are able to view it a bit differently, you may see that utilizing the conscious mind for change rarely works. However subconscious change is incredibly effective . That is the beauty of hypnosis. When you are in the trance-like state of hypnosis, we are able to have a conversation with, or reprogram, your mind via subconscious thinking. Its very relaxing, fun and unlike trying to change consciously, this is truely powerful and permanent.
When I speak with clients for the first time I often hear them say that things in their lives are “hard” or “complicated.”My answer is that their lives are as complicated or as hard as they choose to make them. Our lives as human beings are meant to be effortless and easy. Since our thinking can get us into trouble, we can also correct it by changing how we think. And it’s not necessarily a large change in thinking either. Sort of like when you turn up the thermostat: just two or three degrees can make all the difference. This is why Hypnosis and EFT are incredibly powerful because they utilize the subconscious mind to help you change your thinking, even just the smallest amount.
Remember Jimmy Stewart's main character in the Movie, It's a Wonderful Life? His name was George Bailey. At one point George gets so down on his luck that he debates whether to take his own life. Just before he jumps off a bridge which would have killed him, an angel named Clarence is sent down to help George. George tells Clarence that he wishes he'd never been born. So Clarence grants his wish. George soon realizes that the world truly is better place because he was actually in it. The most important moral that you can learn from the movie: You are here, not for yourself, but for others. That's right-others. To grasp this think in terms of all that you bring to those around you. You may be a parent, a brother, a sister. You are definitely a friend and either a son or a daughter. You may be a boss and are most certainly an employee (or will be). Think of all the people that you touch just by being you. What would be missing if you were not here to be part of their lives? You may be a listening ear or make someone smile. Maybe you will find a cure for cancer or dream up the next great invention. Just like George learns in the movie, always remember that you are not here for yourself-that you play an incredibly important part in so many lives.
Unlike most other hypnotists, I have my clients prepare in advance of our session. In order to get the best results, we must be sure that they will go into the very deepest state of hypnosis. In other words, I do not want them to "come in cold." Its sort of like painting a house. For the paint job to really last, a person would scrape, sand, caulk and prime BEFORE they actually applied paint. So that we are guaranteed success, I have my clients follow a very simple set of directions.
They are as follows:
Pre session instructions
1. Come in truly believing:
(A) you will go into Hypnosis and
(B) you will change permanently for the better and
(C) you are an active participant in the process
2. Listen to the recording that I send you as many times a day as possible. Simply pick a quiet place, take some deep breath‘s and receive the message. The more relaxed that you find yourself getting, the more effective the recording will be.Please do not drive or operate any heavy machinery when listening to the recording.
Note: everything from steps 3-6 will be implemented when you are in Hypnosis.
3. Think of a time when you felt really great. This can be a full day, a few hours, or even a few minutes or less. You can pick anything and anytime your life (your subconscious mind remembers everything that ever happened to you since birth).
For example “when I was a senior in high school, I scored a touchdown in my last football game.” Think about what you heard, felt and saw.
4. Think of an action plan. You may write this or you can just memorize it.
For your action plan:
A. If you could change anything in your life, what would it be?
B. How exactly would you change it?
For example, if you called for weight loss, would you take up running or some other type of exercise? What foods would you eat and how often and in what quantities?
(C) For the action plan you want to get very specific:
For example, “I will run 10 minutes a day, four days per week at 9 AM.“
“I will eat only 4 ounces of ice cream, once per week. “
(D) Structure the action plan so that it is easy, happens immediately and is realistic, then you’re guaranteed success!
5. Think in terms of your trigger and your anchor. For example what causes you to behave in ways in which you would rather not. Pick a simple physical action that we will utilize during Hypnosis such as touching your chin with your finger or giving a gentle tug to your ear lobe.
For example if going out with friends causes you to overeat Then that would be your trigger. A simple Anchor suggested during hypnosis will help to correct this.
6. Think of 3 to 6 adjectives that describe how you’d like to feel from now on. For example you might say “thin, healthy, independent, attractive or strong.”
7. Bring your cell phone or any recording device with you to the session. We will record the part of the session when you are in Hypnosis. You will then have it to listen to later on as a form of reinforcement.
8. We will also utilize EFT and Reiki. I will explain how these work when I see you at your appointment.
You are already well on your way to success.
This is a popular time of year to think about faith. Most people associate faith with religion which makes perfect sense. Faith, however, can come in many forms. A person can have faith in another person, or the weather (except if that person lives in New England) or maybe even a business. For example I have faith that UPS and Fedex will deliver all their packages before Christmas. The best type of faith is called optimism. By definition, optimism is simply an overall faith that things will work out for the best. Imagine the enormous power of being optimistic. It means that no matter what happens, if a person has a positive attitude, something good will result, Many times the "good" result requires time, effort and patience, but rest assured that it does happen. Because faith is a form of optimism, you always know that things have a way of working out.
When you dislike someone or something, your natural inclination might be to run away or avoid them. Actually, I have found that a much better method is precisely the opposite. The way I see it, the issue with that person or thing can be better resolved not by avoiding them, but by getting closer to or approaching them. Its just like the old saying: Keep Your Friends close, Your Enemies Closer. By doing this, you accomplish several things. You easily gain a much deeper understanding of that person or thing, which helps you to easily overcome your fear of and or misunderstanding of them -something you cannot do by running in the opposite direction. Confronting your fear, which may seem difficult at first, is always easier in the long run. Keep Your Friends close, Your Enemies Closer is a positive and effective approach.
It's the holidays and it's all about friends, family and of course, food. If you are like me, you will probably overeat during the holidays. Who doesn't, right? Sure I'll occasionally feel full and kind of gross, but one thing I won't do is let it effect my health regimen or how I feel about myself. How much you eat on one or five or even a dozen days is unimportant in the scheme of things. What is important is what you do all of the other days. When it comes to diet and exercise, it is not about a few days but instead it is about many. It is truly the little things that you do, day to day consistently, that matter. The key to success is eating nutritious foods in reasonable amounts, on a regular basis. The same exact idea holds true for exercise.
The question I often get from clients is: How long until I have permanently changed my current habits. All habits take 30 days to correct. At this point, you can only go back to the old habit if you consciously and subconsciously decide that you want to. But once you have reached your goal, why would you ever want to? Remember that a habit is just like energy in that it must always exist. So you cannot get rid of a habit, but instead you simply replace the habit or habits with ones that are better for you. Of course with Hypnosis, Reiki and EFT this is incredibly fun and effective. It can all be done so easily-what a difference a month makes!